Welcome to the first installment of “Ask Pete.”
Today’s question comes from a blog reader that would prefer to remain anonymous… for some reason.
“Dear Pete, what is your current relationship situation? AND how do you feel about it?”
Good questions both.
My current relationship situation is: not in one.
And I am not actively looking. But, if I happen to fall ass-backwards into one – and that is typically how it has happened for me – that is cool.
With every passing year, and each failed relationship, I get a little bit wiser with regards to what I need in a woman and whether or not she’s a good fit for me. I’m even getting better at determining whether or not I’m a good fit for her.
And, not surprisingly, the overlap of those two groups is getting smaller and smaller.
I joke about “getting pickier in my old age,” but really it is just learning from experiences.
Or so I keep telling myself.
Also, keep in mind that I never really learned how to date. Which probably explains why “ass-backwards” is usually how it happens for me.
As for how I feel about it…
Indifferent, for the most part.
I’ve never been one of those dudes that goes from one girlfriend to the next. I don’t NEED to be in a relationship at all times.
Are there things that I miss about being in a relationship? Sure.
And I’m not talking about the obvious.
One of my favourite things about a relationship is the pre-sleep chat.
Just the chance to recap your day and to hear about someone else’s.
To lend support when needed. To get support when it is appreciated.
Or just to listen. Sometimes it’s nice to forget about your own shit and to care about someone else.
Doing this in person is ideal, but even having a nice, friendly female voice on the phone as you get drowsy is not without it’s charms.
(Can one have that without being in a relationship? Maybe I’ll post a craigslist ad.)
There are other things I miss, and enjoy, about relationships, but that one is the first that comes to mind.
Hopefully that answers the questions.
So, a fairly sensible post on a Monday morning.
I just blew your mindhole, didn’t I?